A couple years ago a friend of mine told me I should get a job helping men learn how to pick-up women.  Coincidentally, I recently found that opportunity through Pickup101 as one of the females that gives feedback during their workshops.

I started helping out because I was just hoping to gain some perspective on why men try approaching women the way they do (and possibly help some women out by letting guys know what we're all sick of hearing).  I had given very little thought about the instructors or the workshops.

A few weeks ago, I went strolling into a seminar called Charismatic Conversations expecting to do my job simply by being honest about what works for me and what doesn't.  I never expected to meet someone at a seminar like this and certainly not one of the instructors who's a so called "pick-up artist."

I'm not the kind of woman who falls for the same old lines, I also don't buy all the bullshit men think works - including these instructors.  I like to challenge men who attempt to pick-up on me.   If nothing else, it makes it amusing for me.  Needless to say, this challenge is rarely met by any guy.  Most men either get intimidated or probably consider me a bitch.  Really, it just takes more than the same boring conversation to catch my attention.

Later that evening, the topic of discussion had turned to ‘banter.'  Lance brought up one of his instructors, Joe Brody, a so-called expert in this area.  Joe was asked to do a demo with one of the other girls.  He was this goofy guy who I didn't expect much from.  Joe and one of the girls were asked to engage in a banter battle.  A banter battle is a battle of wits where you try to one up the other person.  It's not something that would happen in real life, but an exercise to practice getting better at banter.   

As I was sitting there I found myself laughing and wishing I was the one who was asked to banter with this guy.   He clearly had his shit together and needed the challenge of a woman who would throw it right back at him. After a minute of him dominating the conversation with the one of the girls, Lance asked the other girls if they wanted a shot with him.

Yes!  This was my chance to put this guy in his place.  He couldn't be that smooth, right?

He came at me with the ridiculous approach of "accidentally" bumping into me (not his best work), followed by some lines that completely threw me off.  No man has ever had the temerity to say what he did and get away with it!  He kept me on my toes - I was impressed. 

What kept my attention was - he kept making me laugh! The really difficult part was trying to keep up my wit while he was making me laugh.  I wanted to one up him, but because I was laughing, I really couldn't be mean and blow him off.  It's weird how when you're smiling and laughing you can't help but to feel good.

During a break following this demo, a bunch of guys from the seminar came up to us to ask questions.  After a couple minutes I had to pause to formally introduce myself to Joe as we had never met before doing the demo.  The guys we were talking to were floored that we didn't already know each other from before and laughed when we told them this 'demo' was out first interaction together.

To be perfectly honest, it felt like I did already know him though.   For the rest of the weekend we could not stop flirting and, eventually, kissing.  I had so much fun with him it was almost surreal.   It was his sheer honesty and open communication that gave me the sense of security to just roll with it.

By the time Sunday night of the seminar came around, with reality and logic running through my mind, I started to question the whole weekend; his motives, mine, is this worth continuing, how much did we really have to drink, etc. 

And I'm telling him all this when he stops me, looks me square in the eyes and says,

    "I like you.  I think you're cool and I really want to see you again." 

I was speechless.  Not only speechless but I was sure I wanted see him again.  So what does all this mean?  I don't have a clue, but no matter what happens, I finally met a man who took me completely by surprise and he puts a smile on my face every time I hear from him. 

- Lauren

P.S. - Don't think it really happened?  Get your copy of Charismatic Conversations to see for yourself:

http://www.CharismaticConversations.com

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