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You want to attract any hottie you see, and make a great, powerful, sexy first impression, right?

But how?

Attraction happens right away, or not at all.  First impressions matter most.

In our world-famous Art of Attraction workshop, we emphasize that the words used for an opener are not as important as the intent, the energy, and the commitment you bring to it.

But you do need words.

We have one absolute fall-back every time 100% effective opener. This is something that anyone can use, anytime, any skill level, any environment.

You can use this opener and succeed with it if:

    * You are just starting out and dealing with the daunting task of approaching women for the first time (and wondering how in the hell anyone ever does anything this scary). This will get you started and get you positive responses immediately.

    * You can do cold approaches but have trouble running a full story, or making an opinion opener sound right, or aren't able to jump right into fun banter right away. This gives you the open and lets her know right away you are more than just a guy making conversation. You are a guy flirting with her, and totally comfortable doing it.

    * You can run attraction to the end of time but find that the girl never fully commits to you, but lets you entertain her until the guy she really connects with comes along. This establishes right from the start that you are confident, sexual, and have intent, and rewards her for being the woman who is deserving of that attention (for right now).

    * You are a high-value guy and finding that you come on too strong for some girls and overgame them without even realizing it. This will get them smiling and comfortable and let them relax and appreciate your interest.

    * You are super-advanced and want to see just how basic you can break it down.  This can make the game ridiculously easy now that you have internalized all the lessons of value and fun and the potential for great intimacy and sexual fulfillment you have to offer.

Seriously. Any one. Any time. Any where.

So what is the secret? Simple. Give her a Sincere Compliment.

Here are the exact words to use.

"I know this is kind of random, but I had to tell you that you are just too cute."

Now here is what makes this work.

First, you walk up confident but not cocky.  You are not fooling around here, and you are not saying this to get attention. This isn't a joke or a put on and she's not on Punk'd.  You are doing this as a gift from you to her.

Then you just need to believe that she is lovely to look at (for whatever reason -- you needn't save this for the scorching hotties -- any woman who catches your eye for any reason is deserving of a compliment).

Next, remind yourself that you have a responsibility to make someone else smile.  You will make her day better. That's your only objective. Just put a smile on her face.

If you know in your heart that you have the ability to make pretty girls smile at any time, that you really do believe that everything she does is cute, then why would you ever be afraid to talk to her?

Would you not then know that you do have a power to use for good?

Do you not understand how much people, and women in particular, need, crave, and pine for real appreciation?

When you approach a woman and tell her there is something special about her that you can't help but see, you create a world where only the two of you exist, a world she gets to visit far too rarely.

Now it is critical that the compliment itself be as subtle and as nourishing as possible, and it has to be about HER, not about her clothes, or her stuff.

We've tested this with telling a woman that she is gorgeous, or lovely, or stunning, but we've never found anything that gets as consistenly positive and comfortable responses as the word "cute."

There's some deep psychology and subtle social cue stuff at work here.

If you tell a woman how beautiful she is, she takes that compliment as an offering to her altar.

She may appreciate it, but all it says about you is that you are a man who notices beautiful women.

And for some women, those who are not totally comfortable with their own beauty (especially those who's self image does not map to their appearance), this compliment actually confuses them, and makes them very defensive.

They react as if they are waiting for the punchline, like when they were plain and unlovely back in grade school and some jerk kid wrote her a valentine and then laughed at her with all his jerk friends when she confessed her crush on him.

You are not an jerk. You are a man. A man notices things about women that the jerks don't, and understands what is most important to women.

What is most important to them is NOT to be beautiful, or stunning, or hot, or spectacular, or any other lame come-on they've already heard over and over.

What matters most to them, what they dream of every night, is that someone cares for them.  Someone will protect them. Nurture them. Hold them close and enjoy them for who they are: a cute girl.

All women want to be loved. But there's a deep level that most men aren't aware of.

All women want to be loved like daughters.

Women need someone to allow them to drop their shields and see through to the little girl who loves puppies and ice cream and sunday mornings lazing in bed in fluffy pajamas.

When you tell her that you see how cute she is, this is what she hears. Finally, someone notices the girl that was always there.

Go out today and do this direct, natural, warm approach, and see what happens. See what responses you get. See how many smiles you create.

Hell, see if you don't find yourself smiling a little knowing that you have the ability, really and genuinely, to create a little more joy in the world.

And really, isn't that the highest motivation for us all?

Now, go out and meet some women.

Your friend,

Lance Mason

P.S. Want to learn exactly how to make her smile? Check out my Fearless First Impressions, where I teach you how attraction works in the real world:

http://www.FearlessFirstImpressions.com/

 

P.P.S. There's one great line. Now what if you had ALL the great lines? What if you knew how to approach and have fun and get her smiling every single time. No blowouts, no rejection. Make Fearless First Impressions every time:

http://www.FearlessFirstImpressions.com/

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