Today, I want to tell you a story about a woman who knew EXACTLY how she wanted to be approached. And I know you'll be interested in this because it points out one of the biggest mistakes that so many men make when walking up to the girl of their dreams.

This wasn't any ordinary girl, she was one of our PickUp 101 Super Girls. If you don't know by now, the Supergirls are the beautiful women who help us out at our workshops. They come in for a few hours so that you can practice your approaches and get real feedback from real women. Many guys say that it's their favorite part of the workshop.

Anyway, this particular Super Girl happened to be helping us out for her first time. She knew what we taught and she was excited to get involved helping to make huge transformations in men's lives (women often love this kind of work even more than the men!)

So, she came in for her first time to a workshop and there she was, right away, pretending to be her normal girly self in some ordinary everyday situation while the workshop students approached her.

The guys approached her about three times before something happened. She got a funny look on her face. Almost the kind of look you get when you bite into a lemon.

She wasn't happy.

She even looked confused.

And then finally, she spoke. And all she said was... "Why are you all using these pickup lines?"

The workshop students were standing there motionless as their pickup lines had just been shot down.

And that's when she explained it all. She said, "I don't ever talk to a guy who just uses a pickup line on me. In fact, I don't ever talk to a guy who doesn't make eye contact with me first.  And also, it's got to be GOOD eye contact, or I STILL won't talk with him."

Now, I'm always teaching about the importance of sub-communication through body language and conveying a fun and confident attitude. But, still this took a little explaining to translate her woman-speak into something a guy can understand.

See, she wasn't totally upset with the pickup lines (in fact, as she continued helping us in workshops, she began to see how important EVERYTHING is for a good first impression - including the opening line)

And, I guarantee, that if you master opening, you could open this girl with any line whether or not you made eye contact. But, that's NOT what she was trying to say.

What she was trying to tell us is how SHE wants to be approached.  And, it's not just her, but how MANY women dream of being approached.

She's saying "Approach her first with your eyes."

It won't always work, as she may be reading a book or staring out a window, or she may even have her eyes closed. (That's why we have the opening lines). But, whenever possible, this is the BEST way to open a conversation.

What's more, is that she also said if you made what she called "good eye contact", then she would ALWAYS talk to that man. She would never shoot him down after such a first impression, so essentially his "opener" was already done!

She's not the only woman out there like this. All the women that we work with say similar things (though it may need a little "translation," if you know what I mean)

You may see this next time you're out.

Next time you leave the house (hopefully that's SOON!), take a look around for the women who want to make eye contact. And once you've made eye contact, then go approach. It won't take you long to see that, in fact, with good eye contact right from the beginning, you need almost nothing else.

This woman may have had a "rule" in her mind about only talking to guys who make eye contact, but I assure you that every woman is looking for a man who can engage her on the physical and emotional levels first and foremost. The words don't matter, it's what she feels in her body.

Approaching women and getting them wildly attracted is NOT the result of a great pickup line or perfect opener. She's not going to think to herself: "Well... he said something funny, and he's talking a lot, and he's definitely got a loud voice... I think I'm attracted!"

WRONG.

For a woman, the approach happens on many more levels than just the words you say. And, ultimately the feeling she has about you is either THERE or it ISN'T.

There are no two ways about it.

Think about it for a moment.

Have you ever approached a woman and started a conversation that seemed to go well, and yet you just KNEW for some reason that it wasn't going to go much further?

It can be strange to have her respond well to your opening lines and first approach, but to feel that, for some reason, the interaction was doomed from the beginning to only going as far as a polite conversation.

On the other hand, it's another situation altogether when your approach sparks a physical attraction inside of her and gets her dying to know more about you. You know, when it just feels completely ON from the beginning and you're amazed at how naturally charged the entire interaction is.

So what can you do when approaching that makes all the difference?

How do you open a conversation with her in a way that naturally gets her to open up, flirt with you, and be begging for more?

I'm not just talking about the kind of approach where she flirts for a minute but then gives you a fake number or quickly runs away to find her friends.

No, I'm talking about the kind of approach where she instantly feels attracted and instantly sees that you are the kind of man she'd like to date.

I'm talking about the kind of approach that she's heard about her whole life through movies and romance novels and fantasy stories.  The kind of approach that's only happened to her a few times in her life (if she's lucky!)

Here's a secret about creating that kind of moment for a woman:

There are POWERFUL associations that have been built up inside women's minds since they were little girls. Movies, romance novels, and powerful images in the media all set expectations for a woman about the moment when a romantic hero will suddenly step into HER life.

Once you fully understand this, you can use your own physiology to trigger those powerful feelings inside her body to make her feel attracted even when she least expects it.

At the same time, there are ways to KILL any chance of her opening up like that on your approach... especially with the kind of amazing women that you'd REALLY like to meet.

The problem is there is a LOT of subtlety to all this that just can't be conveyed in an email, book, or audio CD... You've just got to see it to really understand it.

It's just not easy to learn to speak a woman's language without seeing and hearing it live from real women themselves. (Or without trying it thousands of times and making millions of mistakes.)

That's why we bring women to all of our events, and that's exactly why I put together an entire program just about what I call "The Real Conversation" - The physical language that women speak and how to use it to sweep them off their feet.

And it does help to have someone who know what they're doing explain it to you so you know what to look for.

That's why I spent some time here in San Francisco with some of our Supergirls and some guys from the community to record my REAL Conversations video program.

In the program, I bring real women on stage and demo the five most common eye-contact conversations that you might have with women before you approach.

I show it all from Eye Contact, to Powerful Approaches to use when eye contact is not initially possible, to how to escalate those feelings through physical touch.

http://www.PickUp101.com/EyeContact/


The best part is that I'm literally giving it away to everyone who takes action before this Friday (the LAST day the program  will be available to non VIP members)

I figure if it works for you you'll think of PickUp 101 when it comes time to take a workshop or invest in a bigger take-home program. Besides, this material is WAY too fundamental to hide away in an expensive program, or to save up for a live program.

Check it out at:

http://www.PickUp101.com/EyeContact/


Talk soon,

Lance Mason


P.S. - Are you ready to find out for yourself the huge transformation that's possible by learning the 'Real Conversation' of Eye Contact?

These women give you feedback that's literally impossible to get anywhere else.

If you want to start making changes now, then our 3-day workshops offer the ultimate opportunity to become fluent in the physical and emotional language that women speak.

You'll get direct feedback for your own personal sticking points, real "in-field" practice approaching real women under a coach's guidance, and drilling the fundamentals of attraction into your body at a cellular level. You'll walk away feeling more confidence, more choice with women, and more comfort... all while simply being yourself.  For dates, schedule and workshop information, go to:

http://www.PickUp101.com/Schedule/

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