I've been overwhelmed with lots of great questions on eye contact - it looks like this is a subject we really need to roll up our sleeves and delve into.

Even if you already reserved your copy of my REAL Conversations video, you'll want to read this email - it's got a few extra tips not in the program.

By the way, if you haven't yet reserved your copy for only $25, you've only got till this Friday before I take it off the shelves forever like all my other VIP ONLY content.  You can reserve your copy for no money here:

Okay, on to the mailbox:

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Hey Lance,

Here is my question, and the context.

A few weeks ago while I walking to work, I came across this gorgeous woman coming my way and we crossed eyes briefly. And, I don't mean gorgeous like in Playboy. She was thin, a wonderful face, a peaceful face expression but best of all it was her eyes!  When I see a woman like this, rarely, I just have a feeling it's the dream woman I've been looking for all my life -- I'm a sensitive man.

My question is this: Am I being delusional in thinking that she would have wanted me to approach her and introduce myself? Or my gut feeling -- intuition -- has a very good chance of being accurate?

I think my intuition is right because it only happens once in a while. With most girls, it's just a blank or average eye contact.  What makes me think I might be delusional is that this girl's eyes might simply have the same effect on most men?

So, the general question is: Do men generally interpret well friendly eye contact?

Thanks.

Sam

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My Response:

Hey Sam,

It's funny how sometimes we meet a woman and we just KNOW she's something special.

Unfortunately for most men, we tend to not notice until it too late and she is already gone, or worse, we tend to discount that feeling all together.

Big mistake!

But hey, you're a Mason Man now, and we do things differently.

We know to pay attention to what we are feeling, so we can know what women are really feeling AND so we can communicate with them in a way they understand.

And yes, an important part of that is paying attention to our instincts and following them whenever we can.

Hey, it's okay to be a bit skeptical and question the advice I give you, but be SURE to always trust your instincts and give them the benefit of the doubt.

Do I say this because your instincts are always right?

Not exactly...

(although in this case I believe your instinct was spot on)

I say this because DEVELOPING your instincts can be one of the most important things you can do to skyrocket your success with women.

And the BEST way to develop your instincts is to pay attention to them whenever you can, and to follow them - even when they seem a little crazy.

Let me explain.

Imagine there's a little kid inside you that sees ALL kinds of things going on in your world that you completely miss out on.

(Yes, I'm talking about your subconscious here, but let's stick to the little kid analogy.)

He's a little kid, so he's NOT very good at communicating with you, or even letting you know when he has something important to tell you.

On the other hand, he sees almost EVERYTHING going on around you, including really important things that you deliberately avoid noticing.

This kid has a TON of valuable lessons for you that you probably aren't aware of, and the only way to get him to open up is to listen to him carefully, and show him that you will act on what he tells you.

Next time you see a women that strikes you like that - I want you to react to that feeling and let it guide you.

Move towards her, make contact with her and TRUST that your instincts are spot on.

I think you'll find she will be GLAD you did, and you will be very pleased with the result.

Okay, on to the next question:

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Lance,

Firstly, I would like to thank you for the informative e-mails, they are really a great help, keep them coming. Second a bit of background about myself, I am tall athletic, and more than averagely handsome male.

I am also one of those broke-a** college students you mentioned in your last e-mail, which is why I haven't purchased any of your products yet, but rest assured you have future sales coming from me once I get out of school and start making a little money. I have found great success in utilizing the information you share in the e-mails.

The biggest improvement I have found is in the effectiveness of touch in establishing a connection in girls you have just met. I meet tons of girls at frat parties every week and before reading your e-mails there would always be an awkward feeling after introduction, but after subscribing to your newsletter and with a good bit of practice I have become much more attractive to women and find these awkward moments fleeting, if ever even occurring.

My question today is if assuming that all women I meet do want to make a connection with me, what is the best way for me to show my interest in an attractive female before making the initial approach?

Put differently, how should I communicate to her that I would like to talk to her while still making eye contact, before approaching?

If you could answer this question I think it would really help.

Cheers!

M.D.

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My Response:

Hey M.D., I'm glad you're getting a lot out of value out of this information, it's messages like that that make this line of work so fulfilling.

By the way, I spend a lot of time emphasizing that the material I teach works for guys who are older, overweight and balding - maybe TOO much time.

Thanks for reminding me that the material also works great for guys that are "tall athletic, and more than averagely handsome" ;-)

By the way, it seems like you've got your confidence together and are already making good progress with women so that's great.

Which makes me even more surprised to hear your question.

It seems that this eye contact business is definitely an area we all need to focus on for a bit.

You asked:

"How should I communicate to her that I would like to talk to her while still making eye contact, before approaching?"

Let me ask YOU a question:

If you're making eye contact with her, and you plan on approaching her, why would you WAIT for the eye contact to STOP before you approach?

Frankly, making eye contact, holding it, and then slowly starting your approach is the absolute BEST way to let her know you want to talk to her.

The trick is not to wait!

Here's an exercise for you.

The next time you are going to a social event or any place where you will be meeting women you don't already know, take a moment to prepare.

Resolve that you will be available to make eye contact with any woman who is receptive, and that you will be the last to break eye contact.

Most importantly, resolve that you will immediately approach any woman who holds your eye contact for MORE then three seconds.

You'll find in this case you won't really need an opener... conversation will just naturally happen since you already have a strong connection with each other.

The point is to get in the habit of seizing the moment when women are ALREADY feeling a connection with you, and demonstrating confidence by approaching right away when that connection is present.

Thanks for your question M.D., and keep reading, I think you'll be especially interested in what I have to say on this final question:

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Hey Lance,

Great email this morning on eye contact and it couldn't have arrived at a better time as I'm kicking myself for not approaching a hottie Saturday night.

Here's my Situation.

I'm in a club in Old Town Scottsdale (Saddle Ranch Chop House) with a friend that just happens to be a natural and an excellent wing man when necessary. The club has two levels, an upstairs bar and lounge and main floor bars, electric riding bull, dining area etc. We're both upstairs and Corey notices these two hot blonde women looking up at us when we're upstairs and immediately goes down stairs and starts to get some work done, after 30 seconds these chicks are pawing at my friend. I begin walking down the stairs and notice another smokin' hottie looking straight into my eyes, I can sense that no one is around me and I'm the only one on the stairs so I know she's all about me, my pace is slow, good posture-chest out a little, shoulders back, chin up a little, I'm confident she's into me. I lock onto to her blue eyes, stay locked on and notice that she's smiling at me, I've got a cocky grin on my face like I know something about her that she doesn't know I know. As I'm holding her gaze I also notice peripherally that she is with 4 dudes, not once did she look away from my eyes and these dudes were talking and gesturing like they were trying way too hard, I stepped on the main floor and was 4 or 5 feet from her, she's right in front of me. Long story short, I kept the gaze and grin and then broke eye contact and made a right turn to get in on the action with my buddy and never approached this woman. These other two chicks were nothing special and we walked away from them.

WTF is wrong with me!!! I've been busting my ass working on cocky comedy, body language, small inner game issues and have been making huge strides.

I got spun sideways by the 4 dudes she was with, I'm not a home wrecker, don't care for alcohol fueled bravado and imagined one of the guys was her boyfriend or someone wanting to be and this kept me from going in to the lions den and taking their kill.

Here's the deal, I'm a good looking guy, got an athletic, lean, muscled up physique, over 6' tall, have all my hair, straight teeth, white smile and dress to impress wherever I go. Always confident in myself and carry myself like I own the place.

How should I have approached this chick amongst these 4 dudes and pulled her away and started a conversation?

By the way, you were amazing at David D's Man Transformation, mind blowing stuff you demonstrated!

Best Regards,

Allen

--------- My Response:

Hey Allen, thanks for the kind words about my presentation at David D's Man Transformation program. I had a great time doing it, and the response from the crowd felt absolutely AMAZING.

You'll be pleased to know that although every talk I do is different, a few of the more important concepts I shared at David's event are also in this video you'll be getting  (assuming you've reserved your copy...)

Now, in response to your question I'm going to share with you one of the most POWERFUL secrets about creating connection with a woman.

A secret that even guys who are GREAT with women (and it sounds like you are doing pretty well so far) almost always miss.

The secret is that when you have a truly powerful connection with a woman, through eye contact or through other means - literally NOTHING else that is happening around her can possibly get in your way.

I'm serious.

When you have a strong connection with a women, there is only ONE thing you have to worry about - You have to maintain a TOTAL focus on that connection.

Don't worry about what else is going on around her.

Don't think about who she is with.

And especially don't think about what you should say... just focus 100% on the connection with her and know that nothing else in that moment really matters.

When you do that you are activating ALL KINDS of deeply programmed emotional and physical responses in her and she will be not be able to focus on anything else but you.

Let's go back to your experience in the bar in Scottsdale.

You HAD that connection with the girl.

You were making eye contact, and she was responding.

She was just four feet in front of you.

What would have happened if you had slowly breathed in ALL that energy she was sending towards you... and s-l-o-w-l-y moved towards her... and slowly reached out for her hand.

Really imagine that moment.

Are you there?

Now ask your self what could have possibly gone wrong if you had reacted as I suggested.

Lot's of things could have gone on around you, or around her... but what could have gone wrong with CONNECTION you had with her if you had kept total focus on it.

The strange truth is that, in a way, you were completely invincible in that moment.

In that moment, NOTHING could have stopped you.

When guys are surrounding a girl, and she becomes completely entranced by something else, they instinctively sense it.

They look where she is looking and then they realize what is going on.

They ALSO instinctively realize that they can't stop it without doing the following things in the process:

* Revealing their attraction to her in a massively insecure and unattractive way

* Validating that in just one moment YOU have been able to create a connection with the woman that they were UNABLE to cultivate

* And generally acting like a complete immature prick in front of a girl they are trying to impress

So what do they do?

I've seen this literally HUNDREDS of times, and the almost unbelievable truth is that they are forced to do absolutely nothing.

They will wait and watch, and eventually scatter away.

IF your connection with the girl is STRONG enough that is.

Those four guys did NOT 'ruin' your game.

YOU did.

You broke off the one thing that gave you the power to do whatever you want.

You broke off the connection when SHE wanted more.

You can bet I'll be releasing more information on eye contact, and other ways of getting down to what I call the REAL Conversation, in the near future.

But it all STARTS with the program I'm virtually giving away - until this Friday, that is.

I want everyone to have this as a starting point for all that I have planned moving forward, so if you raise your hand and reserve your copy by this Friday, it's yours!

http://www.PickUp101.com/EyeContact/

It's best to reserve you copy now, I'd hate for you to forget and miss out.

Your Friend,
Lance Mason


P.S. - Remember, this Friday is your last chance to get your hands on the video that I think is so foundational - I'm giving it away. Don't be left behind, reserve your copy now before we move on to next month's lesson.

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