Does Size Matter?
We are all adults here. So today it's time to deal with a real question from a friend that needs a real answer.
A reader writes:
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"Dear Lance,
I'm writing to ask you possibly the most important question I've ever asked anyone. It's so embarrassing to me, that I haven't been able to ask you before, even though it was really my "burning question".
Hopefully you can't relate to my situation directly, but I hope you can use your experience to give me the best advice possible for my dilemma....
The Question: If I have a small p***s, what do you think I need to do (differently) to be successful with women?
A book could (and maybe should) be written on this topic, but there are several issues I'm most concerned about:
1) Should I communicate it to the woman ahead of time? If so, how? I hate the feeling that she is going to be disappointed when we get in bed together, and that anxiety often prevents me from approaching or going further with women I meet. I wonder if it would be better to let her know somehow, ahead of time, but I feel like it would be very important HOW one says something like that.
2) Of course I know it does (these days the media certainly won't give it a rest), at least in some cases and some ways, but do you think that size matters to the point that it's literally a requirement for some women? From what I've read and heard, that seems to be the case.
3) If some women want more than I have, can you suggest ways to weed them out, so I don't waste time and experience more rejection than I have to, and find the ones that are going to be satisfied with what I've got? Or is it more of a case of "just don't worry about it"? If so, do you have any recommendations for how to "just don't worry about it"? So easier said than done....
I'm a pretty big guy and I carry myself well, with natural charisma that has definitely been enhanced by your workshops.
I've experienced it before, in other areas of my life, that people can have an increased sense of disappointment or shock when I'm unsuccessful in some way or they discover that I'm not as good at something as they expect. I've never discussed it with any of the women I've dated, but I suspect that it has come as a surprise, at least to some of them.
If I'm honest with myself, the way I've dealt with it throughout my life has been to be very selective and choose only women whom I felt really "safe" with, who I thought would not be rude about it. As a result, I've experienced very little direct rejection, but I also feel like I've missed out on a lot of pleasure and many opportunities. I'd like to find a way to change that, if possible, hopefully without experiencing more rejection than necessary.
I greatly appreciate your attention and your desire to help. This means everything to me, and I will value any advice that you provide more than you can imagine.
Thankyou thankyou thankyou!!!
- BigLittleMan"
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Okay, that was a long letter, but I'm back.
You are probably nodding your head right now, just like I am. I have wondered this same thing myself, And the answer is more important than you may think.
The original email I got was even longer. I edited it down just to get to the important stuff, but you can see that this little, funny, jokey issue is no joke at ALL when it comes to finding real happiness with women.
This is just one example about how twisted up and over-thinking and crazy you can get when you spend too much time thinking about what could go wrong, or what already is wrong, and don't have the ability to focus on what women really want.
When you put too much attention on yourself and none on her, you will never win her. You will never keep her.
Everything, EVERYTHING that makes you good at getting the women in your life that you really deserve comes down to once simple, powerful concept.
It's not skill.
It's not knowledge.
It's not even dogged determination and practice.
No, more important than all of those things, by far, is an idea that most men never even consider.
And once you know this secret, you have the key to change everything.
That thing is IRRATIONAL self-confidence.
You have to believe you are the very best there ever was. You have to buy into your own amazingness and awesomeosity before anyone else can.
You have to truly love yourself, and everything about you, before you can hope to express that in a way that gets the attention of really great women.
And that means you've got to understand what women really respond to, and what, THINGS matter the most to them.
So I'm going to clear this up for all men right now and make it so you never have to ask this question again.
1) Every guy wonders if he's "enough" for a woman.
2) Every guy thinks that at some point she must have had a better lover, and better is defined by more
Now it's time to share some wisdom with you that I spent years of arduous, hard labor researching just to bring to you. It was torture, but someone had to do it.
See, I've been with quite a few lovely women in my time, and one of the things that I love about being with a woman is getting the chance to really talk to her, and listen to what she says when she tells me what she wants, needs, and values in a man.
And here's the truth, told by women and confirmed by medical science.
Women only have nerve endings at their opening. That's why they are perfectly capable of pleasing themselves quite nicely without a man at all... just their fingers.
If if the next time you have doubts about your size, just take a look at your little finger. That's all you really need, basic equipment-wise.
And any of the messages you see out there to convince you otherwise are based on stupid male ego trying to create a measuring stick, literally, for something that is not really measurable.
See, the women in your life don't need you to scare them off with your size. What every woman is really looking for in a lover is passion, connection, and the ability to bring out the best in her, and in yourself, so you can please each other.
What she needs is to feel your confidence through your whole body so she can feel comfortable being her best, sexiest self. That's the secret of your Physical Confidence:
http://www.PhysicalConfidence.com/
She wants to feel total abandon with you. She wants you to take her away from the workaday world.
And you do that by really being with her. Let go of your insecurity. Tap into that irrational self-confidence you have in there somewhere. Tell yourself over and over again just what she wants to think of you...
"I am a sexy mother-****er!"
And remember, anyone who tries to tease you, or worse, sell you on some idea or product to give you a little more manliness where they think it counts, just tell them you are quite happy with what you got, and so is your woman. And if they brag on what they've got, tell them congratulations on their bounty.
After all, the guy who brags on how much he's got must be very proud and happy. Makes is easier to play with alone.
You will be too busy really enjoying real women. Now get out there and let that confidence shine!
Your friend,
Lance Mason
P.S. If you don't know how to unleash that real, fierce irrational self-confidence, it's time to start working your body to bring it out. Physical Confidence will give you the steps you need to take to truly walk the walk of confidence in your everyday life, and get rid of self defeating thoughts and questions forever.
Women will notice, your boss will notice, and most importantly YOU will never be the same again. To learn more move with confidence to:
http://www.PhysicalConfidence.com/
P.P.S. Recently I sent out six rules for mending a broken heart. One of you was kind enough to share his success with applying those very same rules which I sent out to members.
Check out this inspirational story from Garret D.
Garret wrote:
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I read these steps from you and I can tell you it works. Now that I flirt everyday, I can't turn it off. I have no time to moan about a broken heart. There's too many girls looking for Prince Charming. My radar is now on 24 hours a day. I learned that women love the flirting guy, even when they know he flirts with all cute girls. They hope to catch this flirter for their very own.
Also, I had a first date this afternoon with a very fit, beach volleyball chick. With her words, she confirmed some of the things you have taught us. She said she wants a man who is "taller than her, smarter than her and more powerful than her". Her eyes were scanning me and her body language kept opening up (as in surrendering more). She wound up suggesting we go on a ski trip together and hinted I should bring her flowers for Valentines day. All results of The Mason Mind Meld in action.
I'm also learning not only to get to the Mason Hand Test, but to get to her eyes. Talking about eye color gives you the opportunity to get in real close and hold a nice, long gaze. While there, you can tell them what you see when looking into their eyes. I say things like "I see warmth and compassion, but also that she is a little wild, exciting and naughty". I may not see these things, but I am telling her what I want her to be. They smile and giggle. Game on!
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Thanks Garret and congratulations, glad to have you back brother!
To learn more about how you can skyrocket your Physical Confidence, check out:
http://www.PhysicalConfidence.com/
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